Many of us leave childhood carrying deep shame about our own unmet needs. When our caretakers failed to love us in particular, necessary ways, we developed beliefs about the ensuing sense of lack that became part of our identities. To deal with what we’ve lost, many of us achieve, strive, and seek perpetual targets for greater success. Still, others of us lose ourselves in addiction to substances, food, sex, TV, social media anything to quell the existential anxiety of living in a human body in our fragmented world. Deep down, we feel the burden of our independence: the knowledge that,...